Just a few years ago, I thought to myself, “Oh, I have a great idea! My husband and I will go on a fancy vacation for our 10 year anniversary!!! We’ll leave the children with grandparents for a few days. It will be like a second honeymoon. We’ll sleep and eat and do whatever WE want to do on some luxurious island beach. It will be glorious.”
Well, this is the year, folks! This year marks 10 years of marriage and 15 years of being a couple! And we booked a trip to occur right smack on our dating anniversary.
A trip to Great Wolf Lodge.
With the kids in tow.
And my parents too.
Laugh it up, friends. It is a little comical. But we have good reason to want to do something as a family instead of just a couple.
First of all, we have three young children. That’s a lot to hand off to someone who isn’t used to having young children around anymore.
And secondly, I’m personally not ready to leave our children for more than a day unless there is an emergency where we have no other option. I can’t explain why I’m not ready. In my heart, I just know that I’m not, and I’m sticking to my feelings.
Sometimes parenting (and often life in general) makes me feel obligated to do what I think everyone else is doing or even what I think everyone else thinks I should be doing. I’m going to take a (very small) stand against my own feelings of obligation by doing what makes me feel good in my soul. And apparently right now, spending two days at a themed waterpark, playing with my whole family, feels good to my soul.
Sometimes we need a break from reality and extended time alone as a couple. However, that’s not always possible. We have to work within our own limits and our own situations. Every relationship and family is different, and there is no cookie-cutter concept of how life should go.
I could feel bummed over how my 10-year anniversary trip is not what I envisioned it to be. Or I can feel thankful that I’m able to go on a vacation. With my beautiful family. While my children are still young and carefree.
I choose gratitude. Besides, we need family time away from reality too. And I’m looking forward to having everyone I love dearly let loose and have a great time together.
It’s a good thing we have those at-home date nights too. 🙂 The second honeymoon can wait a little longer.
So whether you celebrate with your sweetie in an beach-side infinity pool or in a pee-filled kiddie pool, cherish the relationship that you have. 🙂